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Hypnotherapy
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Smoking:
And how to use hypnotherapy to stop it.
Author: Dylan Morgan
When the PROBLEM IS SMOKING
This article is a response to a letter in the NCHP&HR Journal from
Edward John McClurg. The parenthetic remarks in the article have specific
relevance to Mr. McClurg, a tutor in Quality Management Systems, though
others may find them illuminating.
I AM NOT GOING to describe a technique for dealing with smokers so much
as a methodology: the broad lines of my approach. It should be clear
as you read on why this is so.
In dealing with a smoker my first assumption is that I am dealing with
at least two systems. One, which is usually the greater, is the part
which has determined to stop smoking. The other is the system which
is controlling the smoking.
(A business parallel
is to take the former as an enlightened Management who has determined
to implement a new BSI standard, and the latter as a department which
is stubbornly sticking to the old "tried and trusted" ways.)
My first job is
to ASK THE RIGHT QUESTIONS - a task I emphasised in my article on Diagnosis.
I cannot make intelligent changes until I know the answers to the following
questions. (The equivalent managerial questions are in brackets.) The
order is not significant.
* How does it feel
when you want to smoke, and how does it take place? (Could you introduce
me to the department that is giving the trouble?) These stand for a
whole string of questions directed at getting a firm idea of the smoking
subsystem (the problem department) that has somehow to be changed.
* A further question
on these lines is: Is the subsystem based on ideas, feeling or habits?
I.e. Is it more like a voice saying, "You need a cigarette",
or a feeling of needing one, or simply an habitual action. (Is the subdepartment
acting according to rules, or on gut feeling or on sheer force of habit?)
* How have you tried
to stop? (How have you tried to implement the change?) It is obviously
helpful to try to discover what has been tried and WHY is failed.
* What are the advantages
of stopping? (What are the advantages of implementing the standards?)
This question must be asked of the non-smoking will and also the smoking
subsystem (Management and the recalcitrant workforce.)
* What are the advantages
of continuing? (What are the advantages of not implementing the change?)
Again ask both parties.
It is possible that
you will only get honest answers from the smoking subsystem in a trance.
(You may only get an honest answer from the workforce when you have
their trust and the Manager is not breathing down your neck.)
* How and why did
you start smoking? (How and why did the current work practice originate?)
* What do your family/friends
feel about the smoking? (How is the key department affected by outside
pressures from other businesses etc?)
The above are simply
a selection of the more central questions. I also devote time to getting
to know other things about the person. Of particular importance are
their interests, professions etc, because you can put things over much
better if they are related to things they know about. (Just as I am
trying to put the ideas in this article over in a way which I hope will
mean a lot to Mr. McClurg, as a tutor in Quality Management Systems.)
Broadly speaking,
you know the most important things about a person if you know the things
to which they will respond, and how they respond. It does not matter
if the response is favourable or unfavourable. Things they do not respond
to are irrelevant in any brief therapy. (The important thing about a
company or department is the things they respond to and how.)
There is a world
of difference between a pregnant woman stopping smoking for her baby
and an aggressive businessman stopping for his own health. Their minds
are very differently organised; their motivations are very different;
the similarity of goal conceals an enormous difference in the tasks.
(There is a world
of difference between changing things in a company like The Body Shop
and changing things in Saachi and Saachi. Their managerial structures
and styles are very different; their motivations are very different:
the similar goal of applying a certain standard conceals an enormous
difference in the tasks.)
Only when I have
spent at least half an hour on this preliminary task do I begin work.
As I have been going along I have, of course, been noting down promising
lines of approach. And many of my questions will have been devoted to
checking out whether these will work or not.
(Only after a detailed
study of the organisation and the problems involved in the company will
a consultant begin to make recommendations. But he has been noting promising
lines as he goes on, and many of his questions have been devoted to
clarifying or eliminating these options.)
Discussion
I will then discuss what steps the client is able to take without needing
much help. (Find out what the Management might be able to implement
easily without much help.) Often there are obvious things which have
been overlooked: for example suppose that a person smokes by habit in
the toilet only since an ashtray has been installed. The removal of
the tray will stop that part of the habit easily.
In many cases the
bulk of the task lies in this area of things that can rather easily
be changed by conscious effort, if you know how. (In many cases most
of your changes are to management style rather than to the actual functioning
of a particular department.)
Notice that there
is no ONE piece of advice. Each person may have failed to notice a different
specific point that could easily be changed. Erickson once noticed that
a retired policeman always bought his cigarettes from a store next door.
By getting him to agree that it would be better to walk across town
to buy them he reduced the habit enormously. But it is unlikely that
this specific technique would work for many clients.
Induction
I seldom waste time on inductions which focus on some irrelevant subsystem
such as hand levitation, eye closure, formal relaxation etc etc.
(As a consultant
I seldom bother to make changes to any systems other than those centrally
involved.)
I will begin with
a theme of great interest. This may well be smoking itself.
Just lie back comfortably,
close your eyes, and start to think as vividly as possible about wanting
a cigarette.
I will then ask
detailed questions as the client goes through the whole process of smoking
a cigarette, to hold his or her attention on the process.
On the one hand
this gives great insight into the attractions of smoking - the only
pleasure for one woman was the sight of the smoke in front of her eyes.
On the other hand you will find it acts like any other attention focussing
induction. All other subsystem close down; relaxation ensues; there
is total absorption in the functioning of the internal system of smoking
and the hypnotists voice; that subsystem opens up in the face of my
non-judgemental questions.
(Just let the rest
of the company have some time off, and let me just watch the way in
which this particular department functions at present. The consultant
then watches and asks questions. On the one hand he finds out in great
detail what is happening at present. On the other hand he is at the
same time getting the company functioning in a way which makes it easy
to change. The subdepartment is listening to him; it is not distracted
by messages from all other departments; it begins to open up and trust
him.)
This stage may go
on for five or ten minutes (five or ten hours) or longer.
I next start to
make suggestions. (The consultant then starts to make recommendations.)
My preferred style is not to use the bludgeon, but to put things in
a way which seem perfectly natural to the particular systems I am working
with. It is for this reason that there is no one way. For example, with
a pregnant woman it is often very easy to get her to visualise the face
of the unborn baby: this activates a very powerful system of protection
for her child. When she thinks of smoking, the baby's face cries. When
she stops, it laughs. You may repeat this several times. This "technique"
obviously is quite unusable in a businessman.
(It is generally
better, wherever possible, to get a consensus rather than to use brute
force. There is no one recommendation that applies in all cases. In
one subdepartment money is a powerful motive, in another it is job security,
in another is may just be that intangible, morale.)
In practice, then,
I never make the same suggestions twice in the same language: everything
is subordinated to the overwhelming importance of the unique personality
structure of the present client. (If I were a consultant I would never
trot out standard recommendations: everything has to be tailored to
the overwhelmingly important fact that each company is distinct.) I
may use metaphors and images, evoke physical sensations such as nausea;
represent true facts graphically: watching two drops of pure nicotine
killing a labrador in five minutes makes a vivid picture, as does the
fact that tobacco leaves make a good substitute for toilet paper in
countries where it is grown; regress the client back to the time of
starting to smoke; evoke feelings of love - for members of the family
harmed by the smoke; arouse feelings of pride or ambition; use a desire
for a clean house which may be linked to the idea that the body is a
house for the soul; intensify a desire for a holiday or other good that
can be saved for with the £700 or more that is going up in smoke
each year and so on. To list all these "techniques" in detail
would take up many volumes, even if I were simply to present a single
script for the main line, let alone go through all the variations which
are involved in modifying such a script to fit a wide range of subjects.
Tying it up
Towards the end I will normally incorporate a suggestion on the following
lines.
You will be healthier,
wealthier and wiser as a non-smoker. But it will not necessarily make
you perfect. No-one is perfect. Anyone can make a slip. Neither of us
can be certain that at some time in the future, near or far, perhaps
at a party or time of uncommon stress or illness you will not find yourself
tempted to smoke another. And it might well be that it would be the
best thing to do at the time. All I want you to remember at that time
is the thought: "YES, I CAN HAVE THIS IF I CHOOSE, BUT IT WILL
COST ME AT LEAST £30!" (My standard fee in 1994)
I will generally
talk a bit more about the above, pointing out that most people, if they
start again, rapidly return to previous levels of smoking which will
cost far more than the £30 another session will cost (£20
if on reduced income).
The purpose of this
section is two-fold. The first is that the thought itself is a great
deterrent. Few people would ever pay £30 for a cigarette. The
second is to motivate a quick return to me, which will make stopping
again much easier. There is commonly a feeling of guilt at failing,
or a feeling of letting the therapist down, or a feeling that he could
have been expected to give life-time cover: these are counteracted by
the above.
Furthermore I very
much want to know about anything that does go wrong, so that I can perhaps
get it better next time. Failures are far more important than successes.
Anyone, with any technique, can get some successes but you only improve
by minimising the failures, which means making it as easy as possible
for them to come back to you if they start again.
SUMMARY
1. Find out as much
as possible about the two primary systems of interest, and all other
systems, internal and external which are involved. (Study the business
and its economic environment in detail.)
2. Decide on a strategy
of changing these systems, based on their real nature in the individual,
not on some abstract idea. (Plan realistic changes.)
3. Discuss and arrange
changes which can be made at the level of conscious will. (See what
can be done with the Management.)
4. Induce a trance
which is tightly related to the smoking subsystem. (Get to talk to the
problematic department.)
5. Implement the
planned changes at that level also. (Change working practices there.)
6. Tie it up with
suggestions of return if there are problems. (Arrange for further contacts
if there are problems.)
* Throughout look
for as much feedback as possible. (Ditto.)
Ecologically sound
Finally I would like to highlight my overall philosophy in hypnotherapy,
which may throw light on the overall approach I have used above.
We all know of ecological
disasters resulting from introducing, perhaps for good reasons, a new
species into an ecosystem.
We may all know
of instances where a new work practice or rule or law, introduced for
a good reason, has had dismal consequences.
We all know how
a person's personality may suffer from the undue influence of parental
or other ideas which do not suit the person concerned.
HYPNOSIS PROVIDES
POWERFUL TOOLS FOR INTRODUCING NEW SYSTEMS OF THOUGHT, FEELING OR BEHAVIOUR
INTO THE COMPLEX SYSTEM OF THE HUMAN MIND. IT MUST BE USED WITH THE
UTMOST RESPECT FOR THE EXISTING SYSTEM.
I am dismayed by
hearing of hypnotists who forcibly slam into a mind powerful suggestions
with no regard for their compatibility or otherwise with existing thoughts
or patterns. I am as dismayed by the thought of removing a smoking habit
by means of a forceful repression as I would be by the thought of dealing
with a difficult workforce by simply locking them up in a room. Each
may seem to work brilliantly in the short-term, but could have dire
long term consequences.
Ideally I am striving
to attain a sufficiently complete knowledge of all relevant workings
of that system which is the client in front of me AND the even more
complex social system of which she or he is a part, so that any changes
that I make are in harmony with those systems while also being viable
and able to flourish there. (I am striving to attain a sufficiently
complete knowledge of all relevant departments of the business I am
helping AND the even more complex network of business connections and
the economy as a whole, so that any changes I make will harmonise with
what is there while also being viable long term.)
That is what I mean
by holistic, or ecologically sound, or simply doing a good job.
Reprinted from The
Journal of the National Council for Psychotherapists and Hypnotherapy
Register, Spring 94. (with the Authors permission)
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